Beneath the surface my heart beats full with thoughts of you
In accepting me just as I am, my life was made anew
You didn’t change me, yet I did
Because love has a special way
Of growing something greater still
Each and everyday
Today is my 10 year wedding anniversary.
On one hand, just like any man, I wonder how my wife puts up with me? On the other hand, she puts her pants on one leg at a time just like I do.
It’s true, I’m just a man. As I coined jokingly at church, “I’m just a man, she can’t expect much.”
Come on, guys, we all know women have the hardest job in relationships.
Her ability to keep going is amazing. Her resilience rivaled only by her heart. Heck, if I get the sniffles, I’ll claim to be dying in a whimpering voice.
You know what doesn’t enter into our relationship? My disability.
If my wife got a nickel for every time someone sainted her for being with me despite my disability, she’d have a lot of nickels!
Just last week, a neighbor approached her sympathetically telling her how difficult it must be to be with me. …The neighbor approached her.
My wife doesn’t seek sympathy just like I don’t seek the latest miracle cure.
This neighbor even closed their conversation, as my wife deflected this line of logic with, “Well, if you love somebody, I guess things don’t always seem so bad.”
I might be difficult to live with some days. But, again, that’s not disability related. On the contrary, we live remarkably ordinary married couple lives.
Yet, it happens again and again, the sad nods to my wife as others pass by.
(Don’t worry. These comments and gestures mostly go over my head, literally.)
That’s if they think we are together as a couple at all. Oftentimes, people assume she’s my caretaker.
They’re stunned to find out I was married before. Not only that, I brought my now 12 year old daughter into our relationship.
So, here we are, 10 years in.
I love my wife and she loves me. We care for each other.
Not despite my disability, regardless of it.
Here’s to many more years regardless of the bodies in which we live.